At the age of 45 I told my buddy, “I’m sick and tired of hiding from love.”
My heart had been broken when I was in my early 20’s. The rejection was devastating. What made it hurt so bad was that there had been no warning, none whatsoever! I had been rejected by someone I had given my heart to. REJECTED!
That rejection affected me at my core. I didn’t trust anymore, least of all myself. My self-esteem took a nose dive. I believed something was wrong with me. I thought I was unworthy and unlovable.
When I said those words to my buddy, it was as if the blinders fell off my eyes. It was like I woke up; my eyes were open. It took over 20 years for that to happen. Fortunately, I’m not one to live with regrets. I didn’t play the “If only…” game with myself.
I then put all my energy into getting an education. In 20 years, I came away with four college degrees: an AA degree, one BA degree and two MA degrees, the last one in psychology. I also became a certified drug and alcohol counselor
New Methods for Healing
I continued to learn new methods of emotional healing because I came to understand my heartache stemmed from a lack of self-worth, plain and simple.
One method I learned about was Faster Emotionally Focused Transformations (Faster EFT or tapping) to let go of old hurts. This resonated with me and I began tapping on myself. The results were astounding so I became a certified practitioner.
I use tapping successfully with my clients who then ask for the basic tapping protocol for themselves.
Law Of Attraction
I was introduced to Abraham Hicks’s teachings on the Law of Attraction and BAM! as a client of mine used to say when he gained insight. Clarity like nothing I’d experienced before. I began studying and applying Abraham’s teachings to my life.
By combining Abraham’s teachings with tapping, I achieved an amazing transformation. I was finally able to acknowledge my worth and accept that I was born to experience joy.
Knowledge Leads to Action
With this knowledge, I took action to find someone to fall in love with. And within less than a year it happened.
We met in January and were married in June. It’s been 14 years now. 14 marvelous years in which we continue to learn to grow together and have fun.
All because I decided one day that I was sick and tired of the loneliness of heartbreak.
Clarity and Acceptance
Now, I can appreciate the heartbreak because it showed me what I didn’t want and it brought clarity about what I wanted. More importantly, I came to accept that my former girlfriend and I wanted different things, things we couldn’t give each other. I was able to release myself from the bondage of an old, worn out belief.
My experiences and soul searching gives me unique skills. That's why I launched my Fearlessly Fall In Love Again group coaching - to help other broken hearts avoid wasting time wallowing in pain and regret.
When I’m looking for clarity that comes from relaxing, I read who-dunnit fiction, play with my dog Simba and my cat Derrick and discuss the teachings of Abraham Hicks. I also enjoy pastel painting animal portraits and landscapes and charcoal portraits of people. As a result of clarity, I wrote two little books I Don't Mean to Sound Preachy and Musings From the Tundra. This is what I’ve learned about human worth: the happier you are, the closer you are to who you really are - brilliant, worthy, and unique.