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“That B***h Is Trying to Steal My Boyfriend” Part 1

In my practice as a relationship mentor I hear some women complain, “That b***h is trying to steal my boyfriend.” Without being long winded, I offer a brief example of what to do in this case. Take at least 15 minutes and reflect on YOUR thoughts, YOUR feelings. Accept that you cannot control others, triggering you to feel powerless. So, what CAN you do?

You can understand that the more you focus on the negative aspect, the worse it gets. Do you want it to get worse –or better? Of course, better. How?

I suggest that you read the following sentences and FEEL them. When finished, you will feel better and that’s how you change your focus. And the better you feel, the better your reality gets.
Read out loud …

~I admit that I hate that b***h and I feel angry at my boyfriend for paying attention to her!
~I feel helpless, I can’t make them do what I want.
~This helplessness makes me angrier!
~I want to scream at her, “Who do you think you are?!”
~I want to scream at him. “If you loved me, you wouldn’t pay attention to that b***h!”
~In my imagination I scratch her eyes out. (Do whatever you feel will help you feel better. Spend time doing this in your mind.)
~I feel a little better now.
~I can now take a few deep breaths and calm down.
~Now I can start thinking about what I want.
~Wouldn’t it be nice if I never faced this situation, ever?
~Wouldn’t it be nice if these people respected me?
~Wouldn’t it be nice if it didn’t hurt so much?
~Wouldn’t be nice if my boyfriend loved me more? (Add your own wishes to help you feel better and take as much time as you need.)
~What if things worked out wonderfully for me?
~What if miracles can happen and my boyfriend surprises me?
~Even though this situation is sad, I like dreaming about what I want.
~I’d like to believe that I was born to be happy.
~I’ve always felt that life is supposed to be good for me.
~Because I am good. I know that.
~At least I want to believe that.
~Many people in my shoes figured out the solution and so can I.
~They started by acknowledging that nothing is more important than feeling good.
~I feel better by thinking that nothing really matters very much.
~If nothing really matters very much, then why should I bother worrying about them?
~I am alive, I am healthy, I am beautiful, I respect myself and I matter to myself.
~I acknowledge that I feel better and my reality is going to improve.
~And all is well.

Stay tuned for part 2 because this is not the end of the work you need to do. However, you should have been able to refocus from negative to positive thinking. Now you can feel more powerful by regaining control of your thoughts and feelings.

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